What can people due to change their losing games? Here are some proven stages:
☼ Learn to say ‘No’
Don’t let work encroach upon your home life. Learn to say ‘No’ there are times you simply have to draw the line. Honesty with tact will stand you in good stead.
☼ We have cycle of high & low energy
Most people think they can go all day without a break, and still turn out good work and enjoy what they are doing. A researcher says that we have cycles of high and low energy throughout the day. They are called ultradian rhythms and each lasts about two hours. We all experience the lows where we yawn, lose our concentration, male mistakes. But most of us try to push through these lulls, or jazz ourselves up with coffee.
An expert suggest that taking a 20 minute break every couple of hours to give your body a chance to rejuvenate itself for the next cycle. Power naps, short walks, meditation, day dreaming socializing, listening to music or doing low-concentration tasks are all ways to take short time-outs. By taking a ten-or 20-minutes break every couple of hours, you can significantly increase your productivity and more than make up for the lost time.
☼ Enjoy yourself
Many people feel guilty when they indulge in leisure because they consider it selfish. I used to think leisure meant rest and relaxation. In fact, it comes from the Latin root licere and it means permission. Any thing you do out of freedom and choice is technically a leisure activity [as opposed to the duty and obligation that run so much of our lives the reason there us so little leisure time is that we have stopped giving ourselves permission to have it.
Put money in perspective
Living in debt can be another losing game; a changing the way we think about money can help. A expert says that after we meet our survival needs and acquire some comforts and even a few luxuries, the satisfaction we get from purchases actually decreases the more we buy. In short more spending brings fewer fulfillments. So ask yourself. How much is enough?
☼ Close identification can lead to problems
For many people, their job is a big part of their identity which is fine to a point. But such close identification can lead to problems. Losing your job is bad enough, but if your self-image is tied up in the job you have just lost, you can also lose a sense of who you are. Similarly, if your self-image is bound to your professional performance, a bad day at office can send you home feeling worthless. To those who over identify with their role. Your job is what you do, not who you are.
Stress has become a fact of life, but it need not become a way of life. Most of the stress that most of us experience is actually self-generated. The key is too recognized when you are playing a losing game and stop long enough to consider an alternative. What have you got to lose?